Happily Divorced?
Is there such a thing as happily divorced?
It appears so, or at least, it was presented by Rebecca Dana in her article in Newsweek (20th Feb 2012). In the one-page article, Dana showed that there are couples who were successfully and happily divorced.
The couples presented including Demi Moore and Bruce Willis and other well known celebrities.
Although Happy Divorce is much more preferable compared to bitter divorce, but divorce is still divorce and it is not recommended by God.
The article quoted a comment by Andrew Cherlin, a professor at Johns Hopkins, that there will be a possible rise in happy divorces. Why? he explained, where 50 years ago, divorce was so stigmatized only the most miserable left their marriages, now the "moderately unhappy" are getting out too, which might make for some less acrimonious splits.
I do not know whether I want to laugh and cry reading the possibility presented. For me, it presented two serious problems:
1. People are no longer serious in the marriage constitution, they can get divorce even if they are "moderately" unhappy.
2. When people who are "moderately unhappy" become "happily divorced", the family and friends are relieved.
Why go to marriage if you make allowance for divorce even when you are only moderately unhappy? (I am not suggesting that when we are seriously unhappy then it is OK to divorce).
Why must we be happy or relieved, when a happy divorce occured? a divorce is a divorce, what God has united, no man should separate.
As a Pastor, I seriously consider the happy-divorce trend is simply sugar-coating something that is abhored by God. When it is sin, it is still sin, no matter how good you make it to be.
It appears so, or at least, it was presented by Rebecca Dana in her article in Newsweek (20th Feb 2012). In the one-page article, Dana showed that there are couples who were successfully and happily divorced.
The couples presented including Demi Moore and Bruce Willis and other well known celebrities.
Although Happy Divorce is much more preferable compared to bitter divorce, but divorce is still divorce and it is not recommended by God.
The article quoted a comment by Andrew Cherlin, a professor at Johns Hopkins, that there will be a possible rise in happy divorces. Why? he explained, where 50 years ago, divorce was so stigmatized only the most miserable left their marriages, now the "moderately unhappy" are getting out too, which might make for some less acrimonious splits.
I do not know whether I want to laugh and cry reading the possibility presented. For me, it presented two serious problems:
1. People are no longer serious in the marriage constitution, they can get divorce even if they are "moderately" unhappy.
2. When people who are "moderately unhappy" become "happily divorced", the family and friends are relieved.
Why go to marriage if you make allowance for divorce even when you are only moderately unhappy? (I am not suggesting that when we are seriously unhappy then it is OK to divorce).
Why must we be happy or relieved, when a happy divorce occured? a divorce is a divorce, what God has united, no man should separate.
As a Pastor, I seriously consider the happy-divorce trend is simply sugar-coating something that is abhored by God. When it is sin, it is still sin, no matter how good you make it to be.
posted by Suhandy Yao Wei Xuan @ 5:12 pm
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